Since today kicks off the commenting for IComLeaveWe I thought I would share our story. On Sunday's I like to share random photo's so today I chose an assortment of us.
I didn't really think too much of it at the time, but I was finally ready for another long term relationship for the first time in a long time.. and for the first time ever I was going into a relationship with my own identity. I had regained my trust and I was unknowingly ready for the future.
Rob and I spent most of that night at the party together. We exchanged numbers and talked about the up coming St Patty's celebrations that were going to take place. I told him that I didn't plan on attending because I wouldn't drive into the City on St Patty's. That's when he mentioned his room mate was out of town and I could spend the night at his house.. in her room of course.
|St Patty's Day 2007|
Little did I know I wasn't going to ever date any else again after that night. Rob was all I needed or wanted for the rest of my life. We went to that St Patty's party together and that was all she wrote.
The first year of our relationship was amazingly hard on us. Rob became a supervisor for our company and rules were put in place that even though we were dating we were not allowed to work the same shifts. We both worked night shift at the time and what that translated to was us rarely having nights off together. To make matters worse after a few month of this they said that one of us had to switch to day shift. It was hard because we both loved nights. At the time I loved my partner and I couldn't picture myself on days and so Rob bit the bullet and went to days. Thankfully we did have more time off together, but we were now on completely different schedules.
Looking back I am amazed that we made it through that first year. Maybe it was the lack of time to see each other or the old adage that absence makes the heart grow fonder.
During that first year my Grandfather died and then my Grandmother was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. My Grandparents taught me so much about love. My Grandma said something to me during that time that has stuck with me forever- "If your not happy then just move along don't stick around for the happiness to come."
So I did stick around, because Rob did make me happy even if our time together was not often. When he took me to meet his sister in Arizona as we were approaching our first year together I knew that even though he hadn't told me yet- that he loved me.
During that second year my Grandmother lost her fight with lung cancer and died. On her death bed some of her last words of advise to me were that when I get pregnant to wear compression stockings so I don't get varicose veins like her. It was so her to worry about me and my future even as her life was ending. It was in her death that I started to really think about being a mother. It was her advise that made me realize that Rob was the person I wanted to have a family with.
Since a few months after our wedding we have been trying to have a baby. We thought we would be parents by now, but God has another plan.
Life hasn't always been easy for us. I know that we will continue to have peaks and valleys and there will always be good times and bad.
|Tree I planted in our name in Mexico-it was planted in memory of the past and in hopes of the future|
What I know without a doubt is that Rob is my best friend and no matter what is ahead of us we can tackle it together.
|Im not a Yankee's fan by the way... but DH surely is|