IVF paperwork is bucket loads of fun ya'll.
You have to play this game the entire time.. it goes like this:
"If your body works properly and you make lots of embryos what would you like to do with them- a) destroy them, b)let the labs research them or c) donate them to other infertile couples."
This makes you have to go over a bazillion outcomes and emotions in your mind.. and not just your mind, but your spouses mind so its like a bazillion times a bazillion amount of possible, probable, maybe, could be.. out comes.
I was all for option C for a multitude of reasons. Its hard to envision that we may have these embryo's that we don't need.. but its not that we don't want them. I'm not sure that makes sense to anyone, but myself.. but I suppose that is all that matter.
One thing is for certain- we will not be destroying any possible/maybe embryos. Its not happening and we are both on board for that.
So then you have to think okay how about research? I guess I am okay with research if DH isn't okay with donating or adopting the embryo's. I thought it would require a pretty heavy conversation about donation and adoption.. but it didn't.
We sat around the table and I reread all the options out loud again and DH said- without hesitation or second thought- we will donate or adopt them to other couples.
My heart melted. MELTED.
Then you get to go over paperwork about what happens if you seperate, divorce, someone dies... These are not subjects we broach. For us divorce is not on the table. We once saw this funny Ecard online and promptly sent it to one another.
I know divorce happens for many reasons. Im not insane and I understand that in some cases it really is the best option for some couples, but its not an option for us. So it was weird to have to fill out paperwork about what could be or maybe might happen if we divorce.
Or die... that was fun too.
Inquiring minds- if we divorce any embryos possibly in question will be donated for adoption.
If one of us die the other has full rights to the embryos.
There was a lot of other paperwork to go through, but we did it all and signed all of our consents. We also both had our updated blood work completed.
I don't remember having 6 vials last time they did the full round up of blood work, but that is what they did this time. I don't get queasy normaly, after all I work with blood and what not on a normal basis- but my tech had to walk away for a moment due to someone passing out in the stall next to me so I got to stare at my vials of blood which were bubbling before me and it kind of grossed me out.
Next week DH will have his updated SA and we will await cycle day one for my SIS test. If my cycle could ever be normal, this would be a wonderful time for it..
Other than that welcome ICLW's- you can catch up on us here, Thanks for stopping by! I have a lot of ICLW to catch up on since being away has me a bit behind in the bloggy world, but I promise I will be by soon to send my love :)
And there is the ever nagging NaNoWriMo... BLAH. I was coming to the end of my story when it happened- I started to hate it and came up with another story that I wanted to write instead. I felt like it was all rainbows and butterflies and I wasn't happy with that. There is still time for me to finish, but I have no idea if that is really going to happen... Ill get back to you all on that one.
And lastly for Thanksgiving Week I will be doing this Week of Thanks Photo a Day Challenge and blogging about them--
You will notice I got it from ModCloth, but I still love the concept especially during the next week :)