Friday, March 14, 2014

My First OB Appt and Finding a New OB

I had my first OB appointment on Wednesday. I have seen my gyn doctor all my life- in fact he even delivered me, but recently he stopped doing deliveries his self since he is getting older. He recommended me to another doctor in his practice and I saw her on Wednesday and it could not have gone more wrong. 

First Impression- the nurse takes me to the OB side of the office takes my BP and weight and then starts asking questions. Now my RE sent all of my paper work and information regarding the babies and our IVF cycle to the office at my request. The nurse asked for the date of my last period and then when I told her it was January she said- "So you never got your period last month?" 

Uh, no. Didn't you read my file? I responded politely with an "I'm pregnant, so no thankfully." As if that wasn't bad enough she took my husband and I back to a room and left me sitting there without any instruction. There was a gown on the table- "Do I put this on?" My husband just looked at me quizzically. He didn't know. I didn't know. Then she came back and told me she needed me to switch rooms.

My first impression at this point was confusion and that I so far was not thrilled with the nursing staff. No warm welcome. No one read my chart. No instructions- just not a good warm fuzzy feeling at all. 

Then the doctor came back and we quickly realized this was not going to be the right fit for us. First and foremost she would not deliver a twin pregnancy and would refer me to an out of network hospital. It was then that the major bombshell was dropped- they are no longer associated nor do they do deliveries at the hospital I work for. The hospital system I have insurance under. 

You would think that when making my appointment and seeing my insurance a red flag would have went up and someone would have made mention that they were no longer in network. 

The doctor herself was very nice, but there is no way I am paying out of pocket for delivery. No way. 

Further more they had my due date wrong- but kept telling me I was further along than I am and basically not listening to what I was saying. I know where I am- its my body and I have followed along every single step of the way so as your patient I would love it if someone would listen to what I was saying. 

It was determined that this doctor was not the right fit for us pretty much right away and we made that known. We weren't rude about it, but I need to stay in network and I need to trust and feel safe with my doctors. I also want my voice heard. 

Thankfully it wasn't all a waste of time- they did provide me with a new medication to help combat the morning sickness. The medication is called Diclegis and I am only on day two of taking it. I can't say its been working honestly. So far I have still vomited both days- the good thing is that I can increase to additional tablets daily to help out, which I will probably do tomorrow if I still have no relief.

The other thing the doctor did was provide me with a blood work slip to help me get things started. I had my blood work done yesterday (the fiasco that was could be an entire other blog entry, but lets just say it was not easy.) 

I also came directly home from my OB appointment and found a new OB. He is a high risk doctor and associated with my hospital system. He is highly recommended by a few friends and is known to play it safe. Sounds like my type of guy. I will see his midwife in two weeks and go from there. 

Hopefully this is a much better fit for me and the babies. 

25 comments:

  1. Finding a good doctor IN network is so important. My doc is super cautious and plays things safe with me and my twins. I love seeing him every two weeks.

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    1. That is the kind of doctor I am looking for too. I want everything to be safe for the babies and for me.. and I don't want to dread seeing the doctor either.

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  2. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience but it sounds like you were super proactive and have everything worked out. So that's great! You need to do whatever it takes to make you feel as comfortable and secure in this pregnancy as possible. Good job taking the lead girl!

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    1. I knew as soon as we started to talk to the doctor that it just wasnt the right fit.

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  3. So glad you only wasted time with 1 apt. with that doctor and glad you've found a new one so quickly! Nothing bugs me more than doctors and nurses who don't read charts and ask cookie cutter ?'s having nothing to do with your personal situation. Awesome your new doc even works with a midwife too! That is great!

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    1. Completely agree! Why else would I be at the OB office? Im excited to meet the midwife too!

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  4. So sorry you wasted time going to that doctor, but glad you figured it wouldn't work out quick. I can't believe they even agreed to see you knowing you were out-of-network. Anyways, so glad you got things worked out with a new doctor.

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    1. I know! I think thats what annoyed me most- if you knew I was out of network why on earth didn't you call and tell me that to begin with.

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  5. I'm sorry your first OB appointment was kind of a disaster! But I'm also glad you've found a new place that sounds like it will be a much better fit. Thinking of you.

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    1. I'm glad I found a new place too. Hopefully its just a little blip to get me to the right doctors.

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  6. Glad you had a legit excuse to get out of there! It amazes me how many sucky Drs., medical staff , etc there are!

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  7. Yuck! What a hassle but glad it finally worked out in the end!

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    1. Me too! Im glad to be seeing the new doctors soon!

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  8. Yikes that sounds like a disaster! There is nothing worse than feeling like your medical team is not equipped (or organized enough) to care for you. Although not pregnant, I know what it's like to see a specialist who doesn't seem to have read your file or know anything about why there seeing you. I'm glad you found a new doctor, and I hope the appointment goes well!

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    1. It was overwhelming to feel like I wasn't in the right place, but I also knew exactly what I had to do once we got out of there. Im hopeful that the new doctors are amazing!

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  9. Good for you. Be assertive and love or at least like and be confident in your team. I can't stand when medical staff do not read the files! I was asked some upsetting questions after I lost my babies because no one reads a darn thing. Not good.

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    1. Absolutely! I could not believe they didn't read the chart. I work in the medical field and I know the first thing we always do is read the pts chart!

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  10. I so sorry this appointment was such a bummer. But it's best you know now that this place won't work for you. Your voice and your comfort during this pregnancy is the most important thing.

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    1. Thanks Charity! You are so right!

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  11. I am sorry your ob appt didn't go well! I hope your new one is much much better!!!

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  12. Stopping by from ICLW. Finding doctors of any kind is so hard, and made doubly so when their staff are not a good fit either. I hope your new OB works out well for you. Also, I'm a twin mama of four-month old girls. :)

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  13. I hope this new OB will be "the one" for you and the babies. I worked with a hospital where the OBs took turns being on-call, so I was never guaranteed who would actually be present when I gave birth. The OB who delivered my son was someone I had never met before. But she was awesome! She's my regular OB/GYN now. Funny how that worked out.

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  14. Changing your old OB to a new one is really a huge challenge, especially if you’re too familiar and comfortable with your previous OB. But change is good oftentimes, and I hope your friend’s recommended OB will be the right one for you.

    Catalina

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